Say Hello to Your Spiritual Self
The French have a phrase that sums up the reason for someone or something’s existence: raison d’être. Many people struggle to figure out what their raison d’être is, if they ever bother to at all. Life coaching can help people identify what they have been trying to accomplish all along in their personal and professional lives, both subconsciously and semi-consciously. It can also provide focus, which might ultimately lead to greater success.
People are more intuitive about things surrounding their life purpose than they imagine, according to Craig Marshall, a life coach and public speaker who has inspired thousands. Once they gain insight into their inner purpose, the sky’s the limit. But they must be willing to drill down to the deepest part of themselves to uncover it. “I think it’s almost impossible for people to figure it out on their own. It’s in their blindspot,” Marshall says. A life coach assists with the digging and then helps people manifest that life purpose into their personal and professional lives. It becomes an aligning process.
Some might argue that mining inner purpose and getting more in touch with one’s spiritual self is the point behind attending religious services. Marshall counters that individuals get universal information, not personal data from such gatherings. The first thing he does with a new client is conduct a thorough personal assessment. This includes taking inventory of their current major challenges, reflecting on their personal history and childhood programming, as well studying their environmental influences today. A discussion of their big-picture perspective follows. “What do they think is the meaning of their life? Remember, there’s the purpose of life and then there’s the purpose of their life,” Marshall says.
As a homework assignment, Marshall asks clients to list and provide definitions for ten of their favorite words. He follows that up with a conversation about the difference between joy and happiness which gets to the very core of things. “Happiness has value of course, but it is an outer game and an additive process. Happiness always has a cause. Whereas joy is an inner game and a subtractive process. Once we get our fears and our doubts and our restlessness and superficiality out of the way, we find out ironically that we’ve been joyous all along but we just didn’t know it,” he says.
Life coaching sessions help chip away at all the things that might be blocking someone from finding their real joy. It’s not religious – in fact, Marshall doesn’t even like to call it spiritual despite the 35 years he spent living as a monk in a monastery. “I simply ask people ‘would you like to be more conscious? Would you like to be more aware? Would you like to be more joyous and happy?’ It’s non-sectarian. It doesn’t matter whether you’re Jewish or Buddhist or whatever.”
Generally, people enlist a life coach to help them better navigate their life, and frequently have specific goals in mind—landing a better job or finding the perfect partner or surmounting whatever difficulties they feel are holding them back. The list goes on. These pursuits have merit in and of themselves of course, yet they are essentially superficial. If an individual is receptive and wants to dig further, a truly effective life coach can help them see that by discovering their inner purpose and their inner joy, all these things can be achieved more easily. “An effective life coach creates not simply a win but a win-win,” concludes Marshall.